Although the true story behind the sharing of valentine cards remains a mystery, it is no secret how children all over the world enjoy the ritual of sharing special cards with their friends on February 14^th.

Whether exchanging valentine cards, always having a cake on your birthday or even having the same ritual each night at bedtime, family rituals can enhance a preschooler’s identify, provide consistency and connect generations in an enduring bond. According to Dr. Martin Cohen, director of the Marital and Family Therapy Clinic at New York Medical Center, “Children find a certain security and solace in something that gives a sense of belonging and comfort. Kids find rituals fascinating--artistically, spiritually and emotionally.”

Rituals and traditions give birth to our family histories. As parents, we are role models. Our children imitate our actions, beliefs and thoughts. When we recall happy times with our families or re-create an experience we shared with our parents, it teaches our children to appreciate life’s simple times and look for those special moments in their own lives. Repetition is an important way of learning for young children. Rituals re-create an action or message in the mind of your child over and over again. Children love repetition; it creates a sense of security in their lives. To feel secure, a child needs to feel that his or her world is predictable. Rituals help our children feel safe, giving them a greater sense of self-confidence.

What special family rituals does your family enjoy? You can start by making some heart-shaped valentine cards together. Even with our hectic schedules, I encourage you share some special rituals with your children while building happy memories that will last a long time.